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DEAR CRF, I DON’T LOVE HIM
Dear Code Red Flag, “I have been with my man for 15 years. I found out he’s been cheating for the last 2 yrs paying her bills. She’s not the only one there have been others in the last 2 years. I also found out he had a sexual relationship with the woman we adopted a baby from back in 2005. God knows how long that lasted because she still calls!!! He wants to work it out with me. Will I be stupid to seek counseling with him? I don’tRead More
DEAR CRF, HE’S JUST A FRIEND
DEAR CRF, “My man says that he’s jealous when I’m around a male friend of mine who I’ve had a past with but it’s over and done with. However, my man says he feels that my male friend still has feelings for me. Should I stop hanging out with him or should I tell my man to check his jealousy? Is this a #CRF?” CRF RESPONSE It’s easy to call him jealous and insecure but in this situation, if roles were reversed, how secure would you be? I’m not sayingRead More
100% Trust is Emotional Fiction, Not Intimate Fact
100% trust is fiction. We don’t even trust OURSELVES 100%, yet many of us have the ridiculous idea that we’re supposed to be able to trust someone else 100% before they’re ‘worthy’ our ‘love’. The ‘100% trust’ fallacy is a cornerstone that the demise of many relationships is built on – many before they even start. The whole idea of 100% trust has somehow become synonymous with “You can NEVER intentionally lie, cheat, or let me down.” Therefore, as soon as you “mess up” – which is inevitable, by theRead More
Are You Available?
The single life is great! Singles get to go on dates, meet new people, and expand their horizons. But there comes a time when a single man or woman wants to start dating with a purpose, instead of for entertainment. Just remember that dating with a purpose requires you to be AVAILABLE and open to being vulnerable with another. So how does one know if they’re available? You’re available if: – You’re not playing games – Don’t have an ex who you keep on the bench – Believe that thereRead More
Dear CRF, What Are the Rules?
Dear CRF, “What are the real rules in dating? I’m new to the dating scene and my question is if I’m not in an exclusive boyfriend and girlfriend relationship is it fair or right to go out on dates with different men. And there’s is no sex involved what’s so ever either. I need your help I’m not sure which way is right.” CRF RESPONSE The only rule I have for dating is based on the Golden Rule, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” ButRead More
