GENDER ROLES: Do Women Really Want To Be Equals When It Comes To Dating and Relationships

Equality is defined the state of being equal, especially in status, rights, and opportunities. Equal is further defined as being the same in quantity, size, degree, or value and having the ability or resources to meet (a challenge). Women want to be considered equal to men. They want the same status, rights, and opportunities. I agree that they should be. But when it comes to dating and relationships, many women do not want to be equals. They want to maintain these gender roles. They just won’t admit it because theyRead More


As a dating coach for smart, strong, successful women, I spend a LOT of time talking to women on the phone about their love lives. In fact, I’ve participated in so much girl talk, I’m like an honorary girlfriend at this point. And the one thing that I consistently hear from women is this: I want a man who is a leader. I want a man who makes decisions. I want a man who has a plan. I want a man who can take control – start his own company,Read More

Marry You? What’s in it for Me?

If you’re a fan of the Code Red Flag Facebook page you may know that recently I created a group page allowing members to send in questions that they don’t need to be anonymous. Yesterday, one in particular stood out. Check it out below: This question is mostly for the men: Gentlemen, is marriage beneficial for you? If so what are the benefits you find in marriage? I ask because several men frown upon marriage (including married men) they claim it’s mostly beneficial for the woman. Ladies chime in please.Read More

What Men are Looking for in the Long Term

Before we jump off let me give you a little background. I’m thirty-five years old and I’ve long since left my irresponsible twenties behind me. I’ve been married for twelve years to the most amazing woman I’ve ever known. I have two beautiful kids that are well mannered (for the most part), make good grades and have (relatively) normal friends. Most of my friends would consider me an “alpha” male, in that I tend to make decisions easily and don’t mind being aggressive when necessary. Men aren’t complicated. I knowRead More

Dear CRF, Is This a Sign?

Dear CRF, “I have a friend who has had hard times and whenever I compliment [him] or make reference to how great [he is], it turns into an argument. Just want the best for [him]. But it’s becoming verbal abuse. Is that a sign of an emotionally unavailable person?” CRF RESPONSE: I am sorry you are going through this with your “friend” (using that word loosely because this doesn’t seem like a friendship at all). It is admirable that you have taken into account the difficult time your friend hasRead More