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I NEEDED MY FATHER

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The first memory I have of my father is the day he picked me up from my home in Queens, NY, and whisked me off to Buffalo to visit with his family. All of them were strangers to me then. And now, 37 years later, many of them are still strangers. That visit with him was magical. Before that night, I was not even aware that I came from two people. I had no knowledge that I even HAD a father. But that night, I saw my first Atari 5200,Read More


MY BLENDED FAMILY: A STEP FATHER’S STORY

Multi Generation African American Family Standing In Garden

Being a step-parent is challenging because you are walking into an already made family and trying to see where you fit in. And the lines are blurred but very fine. Especially when there is history and factors beyond your control. When I first started dating my fiancée, her children’s father was not in the picture. They were divorced and for whatever reason, he chose not to be involved in his children’s lives, so it was very easy for me to come in and fill a void. When there is noRead More


WHY ARE YOU SO SCARED OF MARRIAGE?

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At one point in earth’s history—actually, as early as a few decades ago, getting married was on the top of most people’s agenda. Move out the house, get a job, get married, and have children. That was part of the American dream. The dream was not complete without getting married and most people sought to get married early in life. Not so anymore. ​In 1960, a man would wait until he was 22 to get married. A woman would be married by the time she age 20 (I guess that’sRead More


SORRY IS ALL THAT YOU CAN SAY

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Mother’s Day recently passed and I received a phone call from my oldest sister trying to repair our relationship. I told her I wasn’t interested. On New Year’s Eve, my middle sister sent me a text proclaiming how much she loved me. I asked her to cease and desist from contacting me. In fact, I’ve told my mother the same and I don’t regret it. Not every conflict ends with a hug, sometimes it takes you removing yourself from the chaos to find your peace. That is what I haveRead More


IS YOUR WORK LIFE AFFECTING YOUR LOVE LIFE?

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Have you noticed that your work life has been having a negative impact on your love life? You spend 8-10 hours a day in the office, factory, store, etc and then you come home too tired or stressed to engage with your loved ones. This becomes a routine and the disconnect between you and your family grows. Now there are arguments or even worse, the silent treatment. Here are a few things you can implement into your time on the job that will help you feel better when you getRead More


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