family
8 RED FLAGS SHE’S A BAD BABY MOMMA
If you’ve ever dated a woman with children, then you already know that there is always a back-story that defines the relationship that the mother has with the father of the children, if there even is a relationship. Automatically as men, we look at her as a heroine. We see her as a single mother doing the best job possible to ensure that her kids are well taken care of. And with this assumption, we tend to already have a disdain for a man we have never met, the fatherRead More
CONFESSIONS OF AN ENABLER
I ran into my ex the other day. This was not the first time our paths crossed after I escaped the toxic, abusive relationship I had with him. But, it was the first time we spoke. After exchanging pleasantries I noticed he was drunk; not tipsy, but drunk…sloppy. That is a regular state of being for him. Through the night I watched as this man groped random women, stumbled over his own two feet, and come close to getting into several fist fights (yes, I stepped in to save himRead More
“BECAUSE I’M AN ADULT”: The Double Standard of Respect in Families
“I want my kid to be respectful and empathetic to others feelings.” This is a common sentiment I hear when I begin my work with a new parent. I usually get this statement as we begin to talk about what changes they’d like to see in their child and what behaviors they’d like to see in their child when their child becomes an adult! But sometimes I wonder: do we have a double standard of who we want our children to become and who they are when they live withRead More
I WANNA LOVE LIKE THAT
Saturday morning in one of my Facebook groups, a question was posed to the group members inquiring if we had given up on love. Immediately, the question received several responses in which men and women affirmed that they had thrown in the towel. One guy expressed that the wall around his heart was up and he was unsure if it would ever come down. Another stated that the vivid dreams of getting married and having children has become blurry. One lady even declared that she hadn’t given up on loveRead More
PAPA WAS A ROLLING STONE BUT YOU THOUGHT YOU’D TAME HIM
How did that work out for you? It amazes me how naive women can be when choosing to procreate. Let’s take for instance the Ciara/Future situation. Ciara is a famed R&B singer and Future is her baby father/ex fiancé. Before Ciara came around Future had already shown the world who he was. Future was definitely a rolling stone. He had already impregnated, cheated on, and left three other women to raise their children as single mothers. But somehow, Ciara thought it would be a good idea to sign up toRead More
