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WE CAN’T BE FRIENDS!
It’s over. You and your significant other have decided that you are ending your relationship. Now the question of remaining friends arises. You’re not sure whether it’s a good idea. And truthfully, it might not be. While I am friends with a few of my exes, not all of them make the cut. Friendships are relationships without physical intimacy. As such, the basic tenets apply. Being Loyal– if your relationship ended due to disloyalty why would you want a disloyal person as your friend? Being Dependable– friends should be reliableRead More
SORRY IS ALL THAT YOU CAN SAY
Mother’s Day recently passed and I received a phone call from my oldest sister trying to repair our relationship. I told her I wasn’t interested. On New Year’s Eve, my middle sister sent me a text proclaiming how much she loved me. I asked her to cease and desist from contacting me. In fact, I’ve told my mother the same and I don’t regret it. Not every conflict ends with a hug, sometimes it takes you removing yourself from the chaos to find your peace. That is what I haveRead More
CONFESSIONS OF AN ENABLER
I ran into my ex the other day. This was not the first time our paths crossed after I escaped the toxic, abusive relationship I had with him. But, it was the first time we spoke. After exchanging pleasantries I noticed he was drunk; not tipsy, but drunk…sloppy. That is a regular state of being for him. Through the night I watched as this man groped random women, stumbled over his own two feet, and come close to getting into several fist fights (yes, I stepped in to save himRead More
THE ABUSE YOU CAN’T SEE
When we hear about domestic violence, one of the first images that pop into our heads is a man physically abusing a woman. This has been the mascot of domestic violence, and as a consequence has taken the importance away from the other types of abuse that exist in a relationship. This occurs simply because “what you can’t see, you won’t know.” Mental abuse does not leave any physical scars. The police officer who is called in for a dispute cannot see the scar that is embedded in your brain.Read More
EMOTIONAL ROLLERCOASTER
R&B songstress Vivian Green sang a song where she described a relationship with a man as an emotional rollercoaster. You see, things would go very well for a certain amount of time, and then here comes the free fall. Unlike the roller coasters at Six Flags, these types of relationships aren’t fun as the dive into a downward spiral. The drop in rollercoaster relationships usually entails cheating, abuse (mental, physical, verbal, etc.) and down right disrespect. Only to be followed by promises to do and be better. Which of course,Read More
