I CARE TOO MUCH TO BE YOUR SIDE CHICK BUT NOT ENOUGH TO BE YOUR WIFE.
Whelp, it just dawned on me. I am not wife material. But I also am not cut from the side chick cloth. What I mean is that I’m too lazy to be a needy man’s wife but I am too selfish to want to share a man. Oh what a conundrum. How did I come to this epiphany? By reading of course. Before you laugh at me and think that Steve Harvey, Rob Hill, Tony Gaskins, Derrick Jaxn, or another one of these male relationship pimps, oops I’m mean expertsRead More
I KNEW SHE WAS THE ONE
When people talk about marriage, a phrase that is often utilized as a metaphor for the process, is the idea of “two becoming one”. I was asked recently to describe the intrinsic qualities that separated my wife from the pack, and how I knew she was The One. The truth is, that there is not a set of “bullet points on a list” that a person can check off, to achieve the “one” status, in a man’s heart necessarily. But in MY particular case, there were definitely some defining characteristicsRead More
ARE YOU READY FOR YOUR GOOD THING?
The Bible tells us, “He who findeth a wife findeth a good thing and receives favor . . .” (Proverbs 18:22). Are you ready for your good thing and favor? If I say the word WIFE what is the first word that comes to your mind? I asked this question of the fan base for my dating and relationship blog Code Red Flag and the answers showed just how different life experiences and biases lead to different perceptions as to the meaning of certain words. The most popular response wasRead More
HOW I KNEW I HAD FOUND MY WIFE
As I think about how I approached things with my wife, there are several things that stand out about the process for me. 1) I wasn’t necessarily looking to date her when I met her. I mean, she was fine. Very. But I was good. I had had my share of the games, and the volatility of relationships, and was really just looking for PEOPLE, to be cool and hang out with. Not sex. Just chill with. I wanted a change of pace from “poker night with the fellas”, orRead More
DEAR CRF, WHAT IF MARRIAGE IS MY GOAL?
Dear CRF, “Marriage is the goal for some people and not for others. With that being said, would you date someone knowing that they are looking for a level of companionship (not marriage) with the hopes of changing their mind? Or just let it go? And if you do enter in said relationship, do you get mad at that person because, they aren’t willing to change?” RESPONSE You’ll be facing an uphill battle if you choose someone whose life goals don’t match yours. If you want to be married dateRead More