child support



If you’ve ever dated a woman with children, then you already know that there is always a back-story that defines the relationship that the mother has with the father of the children, if there even is a relationship. Automatically as men, we look at her as a heroine.  We see her as a single mother doing the best job possible to ensure that her kids are well taken care of.  And with this assumption, we tend to already have a disdain for a man we have never met, the fatherRead More


Dear CRF, I don’t know where to start with this story without worrying about people judging me, but oh well. I never seek advice from people online but I guess when you are hurt you can do desperate things to make yourself feel better. This is to get other people opinions  n the hard truth I already know. I met my son’s father few months after school. I met him at the library while studying for my state board. He was studying for his  too. He and I clicked immediately.Read More

Chapter 1 Flag On the Play: A Woman’s Guide to Finding Mr. Right in a World Full of Mr. Right Nows.

Flag On the Play

Chapter 1 Mr. Hudson River Valley: ‘Separated’ Means Married The Hudson River separates New York from New Jersey, but they are both still connected to it. For most women there is a “valley” of sadness surrounding being with a married person. Most women don’t want to share a man, they want their own man! But somehow, so many of us get caught up making the excuse, “but he’s separated,” and believing all the stories (read: lies) about how horrible his wife is. Ladies, trust me, I speak from experience. WhenRead More

Dear CRF, Since When Do I Need Permission?

Dear Code Red Flag, “I recently broke up with my children’s father after 11yrs. We have two daughters together and I also have an older daughter from a previous relationship (which he didn’t meet until a yr after dating! I just don’t get down like that, bringing men around my children so easily). Anyway, the convo came up about me eventually dating, which I’m no where near ready to do at this point, but he stated that when the time comes he would have to not only meet the manRead More


Submit ALL of your #DearCRF using the form below or by email Questions will be chosen randomly for answers by our Founder. All other questions will be posted anonymously to the Code Red Flag Facebook Fan Page for community feedback. [contact-form-7 id=”937″ title=”Dear CRF”] Code Red Flag’s Founder: Dena Reid, Esq. Founder and President of Code Red Flag, Dena Reid Esq. is a legally trained Conflict Mediator, Best Selling Author, and Motivational Speaker. Ms. Reid’s mediation practice specializes in family and domestic disputes. She holds a Bachelors of Science from CornellRead More