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“BECAUSE I’M AN ADULT”: The Double Standard of Respect in Families
“I want my kid to be respectful and empathetic to others feelings.” This is a common sentiment I hear when I begin my work with a new parent. I usually get this statement as we begin to talk about what changes they’d like to see in their child and what behaviors they’d like to see in their child when their child becomes an adult! But sometimes I wonder: do we have a double standard of who we want our children to become and who they are when they live withRead More
I WANNA LOVE LIKE THAT
Saturday morning in one of my Facebook groups, a question was posed to the group members inquiring if we had given up on love. Immediately, the question received several responses in which men and women affirmed that they had thrown in the towel. One guy expressed that the wall around his heart was up and he was unsure if it would ever come down. Another stated that the vivid dreams of getting married and having children has become blurry. One lady even declared that she hadn’t given up on loveRead More
PAPA WAS A ROLLING STONE BUT YOU THOUGHT YOU’D TAME HIM
How did that work out for you? It amazes me how naive women can be when choosing to procreate. Let’s take for instance the Ciara/Future situation. Ciara is a famed R&B singer and Future is her baby father/ex fiancé. Before Ciara came around Future had already shown the world who he was. Future was definitely a rolling stone. He had already impregnated, cheated on, and left three other women to raise their children as single mothers. But somehow, Ciara thought it would be a good idea to sign up toRead More
DEAR CRF, SHE’S STILL FRIENDS WITH HER EX
Dear CRF, “Me and my girlfriend have been together for 7 months. She has this male best friend whom she’s known for over 20 years. He’s been around since we’ve been dating, and I was cool with it. I didn’t see an issue with her having male friends considering that I had female friends. Last month, I went to a family gathering of hers. This was the first time I met her cousins, aunts, and uncles. At one point at this gathering, my girlfriend and her male best friend wereRead More
DEAR CRF, MY FRIEND IS ENGAGED TO A MARRIED MAN
Dear CRF, I need your thoughts: a friend of mine is engaged to a married man. Her soon to be husband is recently separated (8) months. He told her when they first met he was divorced. She found out a little later that he was separated. Mind you, this is before he asked for her hand in marriage (she didn’t have to say yes). Yet, after, feelings and intimacy. she found out the estranged wife and he are still in communication (i.e text communication, he saw her on a break,Read More
