relationship
WHO CAN I RUN TO?
The other day I asked a question to the Code Red Flag fan page and group members. The question, inspired by the Sandra Bland news reports, was “You get arrested and your bail is $500, can you call the person you’re dating/talking to/having relations with to come bail you out? Would they come? The results were mostly yes. However, there are a few who said they wouldn’t bail anyone out, regardless of the circumstances. This truly amazed me and was a bit disheartening to say the least. Imagine this. YouRead More
DEAR CRF, MY BOYFRIEND’S KIDS WANT TO CALL ME MOMMY
Dear CRF, I’ve been dating my my boyfriend for a few months now. We’ve known each other for a year and four months now. We both have children from other people. He has 2 daughters and 1 son and I have 3 sons. His daughters are curious and want to know if they could call me mom. I am leery of this because their Dad and our relationship is still fresh. Both kids adore us and love hanging out with us. My question is what should be the best adviceRead More
BEING VULNERABLE FOR LOVE
So a few weeks ago I wrote about being vulnerable and not letting fear keep us from love. And while that authenticity was glorious to write, it is soooooooooooooo much harder to practice. I’ll be the first to admit, I was sipping some sugary, love flavored kool-aid a few weeks ago. My head was in the clouds as I believed that I had found that special one. I had it bad! The feeling was similar to plunging into a Babyface pre-divorce daydream (“I’ll cook your food, I’ll buy your clothes”).Read More
DEAR CRF, SHE’S STILL FRIENDS WITH HER EX
Dear CRF, “Me and my girlfriend have been together for 7 months. She has this male best friend whom she’s known for over 20 years. He’s been around since we’ve been dating, and I was cool with it. I didn’t see an issue with her having male friends considering that I had female friends. Last month, I went to a family gathering of hers. This was the first time I met her cousins, aunts, and uncles. At one point at this gathering, my girlfriend and her male best friend wereRead More
DEAR CRF, IS THIS ACCEPTABLE?
Dear CRF, “My man posts selfies in a group for people that love black men and he gets responses on how handsome he is, he never talks about me on Facebook or looks at my page unless I ask why he never likes any of my pics, he locked posts on his page so I can’t see what people write. But, I live with him and see him every day and night…he swears he’s just flirting, would this be acceptable to you?” RESPONSE While it’s not acceptable to me, itRead More
