love
BE SPONTANEOUS: 3 STEPS TO DATING
On Valentine’s Day 3 years ago, our first as a married couple was a really unexpected spontaneous night out. Our Original plans were to go out with some friends for group Valentine’s outing. But all our friends bailed on us. We were not going to let the babysitter (grandparents) go to waste so we made our own fun. We took a leap of faith and went to an unknown place just because we saw a deal coupon online. I love being spontaneous but my Ex-Marine hubby usually needs a planRead More
WHO CAN I RUN TO?
The other day I asked a question to the Code Red Flag fan page and group members. The question, inspired by the Sandra Bland news reports, was “You get arrested and your bail is $500, can you call the person you’re dating/talking to/having relations with to come bail you out? Would they come? The results were mostly yes. However, there are a few who said they wouldn’t bail anyone out, regardless of the circumstances. This truly amazed me and was a bit disheartening to say the least. Imagine this. YouRead More
PAPA WAS A ROLLING STONE BUT YOU THOUGHT YOU’D TAME HIM
How did that work out for you? It amazes me how naive women can be when choosing to procreate. Let’s take for instance the Ciara/Future situation. Ciara is a famed R&B singer and Future is her baby father/ex fiancé. Before Ciara came around Future had already shown the world who he was. Future was definitely a rolling stone. He had already impregnated, cheated on, and left three other women to raise their children as single mothers. But somehow, Ciara thought it would be a good idea to sign up toRead More
BEING VULNERABLE FOR LOVE
So a few weeks ago I wrote about being vulnerable and not letting fear keep us from love. And while that authenticity was glorious to write, it is soooooooooooooo much harder to practice. I’ll be the first to admit, I was sipping some sugary, love flavored kool-aid a few weeks ago. My head was in the clouds as I believed that I had found that special one. I had it bad! The feeling was similar to plunging into a Babyface pre-divorce daydream (“I’ll cook your food, I’ll buy your clothes”).Read More
DEAR CRF, MY FRIEND IS ENGAGED TO A MARRIED MAN
Dear CRF, I need your thoughts: a friend of mine is engaged to a married man. Her soon to be husband is recently separated (8) months. He told her when they first met he was divorced. She found out a little later that he was separated. Mind you, this is before he asked for her hand in marriage (she didn’t have to say yes). Yet, after, feelings and intimacy. she found out the estranged wife and he are still in communication (i.e text communication, he saw her on a break,Read More
