relationship
WHAT ARE WE DATING FOR?
If marriage isn’t the goal? What is the sense in dating? Are you content with just being a boyfriend/girlfriend? We can play house together but won’t set the foundation for a lifetime together? What gives? I guess I am asking because I have never envisioned myself being married and someone asked me what is your goal when you date someone if marriage is not in your thoughts? This baffled me, but I am curious what the heck are we dating for? Why are we dating without a purpose? It makesRead More
DEAR CRF, I HAVE TOO MUCH TIME INVESTED, SHOULD I STAY?
Dear CRF, I’ve been dating my man for a while now. Things were really good in the beginning, and I even thought I loved him. After some time, things never progressed to the next level, even though we had moved in together. After a very long rough patch, I realized that maybe he wasn’t the one for me and that there wasn’t a next level for us. Should I give up on the years we’ve spent together or hope that one day I’ll fall back in love with him? CRFRead More
GOD, GUILT, & SEXUAL PLEASURE: THE BLACK WOMAN’S DILEMMA
How many times have you been in bed with your partner—doing some kinky awesome ish, floating on a sea of sensation and totally lost in the sauce—when you suddenly felt like your (grand)mother/ mentor/ Sunday school teacher was somewhere looking down at you and shaking their head in disapproval? Did the realization kill your ladyboner fast? Did you freeze up and suddenly feel awful in some type of way? I bet you did. A friend of mine told me, once, she was on her knees handling her man’s business orallyRead More
PINS & NEEDLES RELATIONSHIPS: HOW LONG CAN YOU KEEP YOUR BALANCE?
Have you ever been involved in a relationship where it was was evident that you were into the other person way more than they were into you? You would profess your love, your commitment to them, and your plans to establish a long-term relationship with them. Over time, your goal in the relationship was to make them and keep them happy at all costs. But regardless of all the good you have done, one mistake and you’re in bad standings and one foot out the door. You find yourself alwaysRead More
DATING FOR ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY
Follow my blog with Bloglovin Are you dating for a purpose or for entertainment purposes only? Dating for a purpose means you have clear goals, you know what you want, what you’re willing to accept, and what you’re willing to compromise on. You’re thinking long term while getting to know your person of interest in the short term. During that time, you’ll figure out through your interactions if the two of you share similar goals, work and play well together. Dating for a purpose often happens in our late 20sRead More
