DEAR CRF, I HAVE A CRUSH ON MY NEW BOSS!

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“Okay, I’m in a dilemma. I recently started a new job. I love what I do and the job actually came to me as a surprise..The problem is my manager is fine as hell. He’s the same age as me, single (we both are) and we both see eye to eye with our career goals. I’m strictly business but can’t help the fact that I’m attracted. We work close together and I think I’m starting to catch feelings for him. I need and love what I do so don’t want to compromise in anyway. He ask me out to lunch quite often but I always make up an excuse as to why I can’t join him. I don’t know what to do. I think I’m falling for my boss. Please help!”

RESPONSE
You just started at this job and instead of your main priority being your work it’s become a man. A man who is your boss at that! Girl, put your big girl panties on and FOCUS on the job you were hired to do!

I get that working in close proximity to someone who you’re attracted to can be tempting but this is where adulting comes into play. Are you going to be a grown ass woman or play little girl games with your livelihood? At the end of the day the decision is yours but let me share a story about a mediation I did a few years back.

A woman was in a relationship with a manager on her job for about 5 years. He wasn’t her manager so she thought it would be ok. Well, one day she found out her man had started dating one of his underlings. She made a scene at his house when she caught the other woman there and then made a scene while on the job prompting the company to terminate her for cause. Now she was out a man and a job because she didn’t understand the day old adage about not getting your honey where you get your money. That’s not winning. Don’t set yourself up for failure.

Let that be a warning to you.

~Dena




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