October, 2014
DEAR CRF, HE WANTS TO DATE ME
Dear Code Red Flag, “So a man wants to date me. We go to dinner, he disappears for days after. He said he would call and doesnt reply to my texts etc. Then days later texts and says hey. Seems like a red flag to me…, what say you?” CRF RESPONSE Sounds to me like you went on a first date with a guy you like. Good for you. Go on more first dates with other men you like. That way you’re not waiting by the phone for this guyRead More
DEAR CRF, I DON’T LOVE HIM
Dear Code Red Flag, “I have been with my man for 15 years. I found out he’s been cheating for the last 2 yrs paying her bills. She’s not the only one there have been others in the last 2 years. I also found out he had a sexual relationship with the woman we adopted a baby from back in 2005. God knows how long that lasted because she still calls!!! He wants to work it out with me. Will I be stupid to seek counseling with him? I don’tRead More
DEAR CRF, SHOULD I DELETE THE PICS?
DEAR CRF, “Is it a code red flag to have older pictures of your ex on your phone/facebook when dating someone new? For perspective you were with your ex for about 8 years and with this new person for about a month. Or is it a code red flag for the new person to be upset over old pictures and request that you delete them?” CRF RESPONSE Everyone has a history. Be more concerned with your present and future with your new mate. Don’t go looking for red flags whereRead More
DEAR CRF, HE’S JUST A FRIEND
DEAR CRF, “My man says that he’s jealous when I’m around a male friend of mine who I’ve had a past with but it’s over and done with. However, my man says he feels that my male friend still has feelings for me. Should I stop hanging out with him or should I tell my man to check his jealousy? Is this a #CRF?” CRF RESPONSE It’s easy to call him jealous and insecure but in this situation, if roles were reversed, how secure would you be? I’m not sayingRead More
Dear CRF, How Much Should I Spend?
DEAR CRF, “Since it’s about to be holiday season I have a question for all of you. How much should you be spending on gifts for your significant other? How much is too much? When does it start to appear to be buying someone’s love? Is this a potential code red flag?” CRF RESPONSE Give from the heart and spend what you feel comfortable with spending and what you can afford. For me, the best gifts aren’t the most expensive. Rather, they’re the ones that show me that my significantRead More
