October, 2014
30 PLUS WITH NO KIDS: Red Flag or Unicorn?
Facebook has proven to be the Walmart of cyber life. It’s your virtual one-stop-shop for news, current events, trends, conspiracy theories, celebrity gossip, and intellectual stimulation. There’s nothing like engaging in a great debate about whether or not your favorite reality star’s backside is au naturel or filled with an inner tube and some fix-a-flat. Certain things have to be discussed and debated, such as the tragedy in Ferguson, MO and the Ebola “crisis”. Still, it’s hard to find a topic that gets passions and tempers flaring more than “IfRead More
WHY WON’T YOU LET HIM LEAD?
As a dating coach for smart, strong, successful women, I spend a LOT of time talking to women on the phone about their love lives. In fact, I’ve participated in so much girl talk, I’m like an honorary girlfriend at this point. And the one thing that I consistently hear from women is this: I want a man who is a leader. I want a man who makes decisions. I want a man who has a plan. I want a man who can take control – start his own company,Read More
DEAR CRF, SHOULD I CARE
Dear Code Red Flag, Should I care that my man watches porn? Is it really bad? CRF Response The only person who can answer that question is you. There are some couples who incorporate porn into their intimate relationships. Then there are others who think watching porn, as well as maturbating is cheating. Neither is right or wrong, per se. It all comes down to what you feel comfortable with. If your mate watching porn makes you uncomfortable then I suggest you reevaluate if that person is the one forRead More
TOO SOON OR YOU JUST KNOW WHEN YOU KNOW?
Is marriage being taken too lightly when a couple decides to say “I do” just days, weeks, or even months after first meeting? I’ve heard of falling in love at first sight, although I’ve never experienced this phenomenon. But, if it’s truly love what’s the rush? Why not take some time to learn your new beau and allowing him/her to learn you? Or is that the mindset of fear? Can a love be sustained after running down the aisle by truly accepting your partner flaws and all? Afterall, no matterRead More
SHOULD YOU TEST DRIVE BEFORE BUYING?
So here is the deal. You think you have finally met your match. All things that matter are in sync….except you have not yet been intimate with your mate. Perhaps the timing has not been right or you want to maintain your virtue until marriage or reach a certain stage in your relationship. I get it! Rightfully so, you should wait until you are ready and comfortable to be physical, develop a trusting bond and know where you stand. Now ask yourself this question. How important is sexual compatibility inRead More
