YOU, ME, & SHE: 3’s Company

One of the reasons that relationships fail is that we have too many outside parties involved in our relationships. We all have friends, some closer than others, and we at times confide in these people. These are the people that have supported us in our times of greatness and at our lowest moments. We sometimes look to them for answers when we lack clarity or are too emotionally infused to find our own resolves. Friends can be wonderful assets. But just like a coin has two sides, friends can alsoRead More

GRRRR! SO AGGRESSIVE: Women who need to be in control

“If you can’t handle me, it’s because you’re not a strong black man”- aggressive black woman Dear Women I Haven’t Slept With, There’s many things I will attempt to explain or rectify in this blog. Why most black men don’t want to deal with aggressive black women, two, out of what need did this aggressive behavior originate from, and last, what can we do to reduce this epidemic. I’m far from an expert, but let me give you my opinion. Black men aren’t working, black men aren’t succeeding, black menRead More


I’m sure we’ve all heard the colloquial saying that one man’s trash is another man’s treasure, but why is it that another man has to get it appraised before you realize how much she was really worth? She was in your possession for so long, that you didn’t pay attention to her value. At the end of the day, what you won’t do the next man will! Well, good women don’t depreciate in value. I just find it ironic that men want the women that they discard back once somebodyRead More


Saturday morning in one of my Facebook groups, a question was posed to the group members inquiring if we had given up on love. Immediately, the question received several responses in which men and women affirmed that they had thrown in the towel. One guy expressed that the wall around his heart was up and he was unsure if it would ever come down. Another stated that the vivid dreams of getting married and having children has become blurry. One lady even declared that she hadn’t given up on loveRead More


Recently a friend of mine posted this on Facebook and my blood immediately began to boil. This is what he posted: “I meet so many women who will block their own blessing by EXPECTING a man to bring something to the imaginary table. When in reality if u holding it down it shouldn’t matter what he brings, cause u got this. ‪#‎strongindependent‬ ‪#‎idontneednoman“ That is totally some BULLSH*T! Here’s the thing, it’s not an expectation but a REQUIREMENT for a man to bring something to the table. If a womanRead More