Dear CRF, I’m currently in a relationship with someone I have known for 5 years. We remained friends for a long time before we decide to be in a relationship. 1, because I needed for him to be correct before we even went there and 2, because I wanted to be ready. In that whole time (4 years I don’t count the first year) we do things for each other that people in a relationships do even though we were just friends. Anything you can think of we do forRead More

100% Trust is Emotional Fiction, Not Intimate Fact

100% trust is fiction. We don’t even trust OURSELVES 100%, yet many of us have the ridiculous idea that we’re supposed to be able to trust someone else 100% before they’re ‘worthy’ our ‘love’. The ‘100% trust’ fallacy is a cornerstone that the demise of many relationships is built on – many before they even start. The whole idea of 100% trust has somehow become synonymous with “You can NEVER intentionally lie, cheat, or let me down.” Therefore, as soon as you “mess up” – which is inevitable, by theRead More