sex
SEX AFTER KIDS: 4 WAYS TO KEEP IT HOT
Most couples I know have a fairly active and healthy sex life prior to having children. In many cases their sex life remains active throughout the pregnancy even to the bitter end in an effort to bring the baby out. However, once the baby is born, life becomes a series of sleepless nights, bottles, diapers, exhaustion and sexlessness or at best random quickies here and there since the preference now is to get sleep whenever and however you can over any and everything else. Another issue some couples face isRead More
I DON’T WANT MY WIFE TO DO THAT: THE MADONNA/WHORE COMPLEX
Today, I participated in a conversation about men who forbade, or rather, disliked for their girlfriends, fiancés, and wives to submit to certain sexual behaviors. As a homophobic society, yes even in 2015, the first thought of many was that a man with this preference must be in the closet or a down low gay man. I believe that is ignorance and fear speaking as I have spoken with quite a few straight men who rather their wives be Madonnas in the bedroom (virginal, inexperienced, pure). As such, I thoughtRead More
WHAT ARE WE DATING FOR?
If marriage isn’t the goal? What is the sense in dating? Are you content with just being a boyfriend/girlfriend? We can play house together but won’t set the foundation for a lifetime together? What gives? I guess I am asking because I have never envisioned myself being married and someone asked me what is your goal when you date someone if marriage is not in your thoughts? This baffled me, but I am curious what the heck are we dating for? Why are we dating without a purpose? It makesRead More
GOD, GUILT, & SEXUAL PLEASURE: THE BLACK WOMAN’S DILEMMA
How many times have you been in bed with your partner—doing some kinky awesome ish, floating on a sea of sensation and totally lost in the sauce—when you suddenly felt like your (grand)mother/ mentor/ Sunday school teacher was somewhere looking down at you and shaking their head in disapproval? Did the realization kill your ladyboner fast? Did you freeze up and suddenly feel awful in some type of way? I bet you did. A friend of mine told me, once, she was on her knees handling her man’s business orallyRead More
BRING COURTSHIP BACK!
Has courtship lost its shine since casual dating is so prevalent? Do we cover the bases anymore or do we immediately knock it out the park? First, let’s explore what courtship entails: 1. Courting One on One. Try courting one person at a time. 2. Let the man lead the way. Ladies let him drive. 3. Take it one base at a time. You don’t have to save it for marriage but at least commit your mind and heart before your bodies collide. Now let’s explore what dating entails: 1. Dating is for sportRead More
