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‪‎Dear CRF‬, “Ok so my BFF is supposed to be getting married her wedding is only a few weeks away. We all have our stuff done- dresses shoes appts- all the things a bride and her maids are supposed to do. She has gotten all the response cards back from our side but none from his. We found out that her fiancé never took care of his tux or his groomsmen. She never sees him Monday through Friday just the weekends and thats every couple of weeks. He leaves Sunday morning at 4 am. When it’s time for family fuctions he is a no show. I don’t wanna lose my bestfriend. We have been BFFs for 23 yrs but it’s hurting because I know he is not right. I see the red flags. He has a fresh tan line on his finger, very fresh. What can I do?

I glad to see your bs detector is working. How you describe this man sounds like he’s a Code Red Flag. I’m sure your BFF is in love, and as you know, love can make us miss all type of red flags. My best advice to you is to talk to your girl like the problem you perceive she is having is either your own or someone close to you. Often times it is easier to give advice than to take it. Once she has given what she believes is sound advice to you then bring up the similarities about the hypothetical story and her real story. Hopefully she will get it. At the end of the day, we all must take responsibility for what we allow ourselves to go through. As a friend, you just need to be there to help her pick up the pieces should your intuition be correct. Good luck.

~ Dena Reid, Esq., Founder of Code Red Flag

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