I think @DarnelCooper is dead on. It is easier being the approachee than the approacher. The hones is all up to the approacher. The approachee has the luxury of the Praetor at the Roman Coliseum...giving the thumbs up or thumbs down...to determine if a guy will live or die. But it's the Gladiators (us guys) that must be battle-hardened and battle-tested, forged through the streets/clubs/bars of rejection - just to enter the sands of the dating arena. (how I got on some ole Gladiator metaphor? But it works.)
Rejection is easy to dismiss when you are the one accepting the offering. Tell that to a man who has, with respectful tone and approach, been rejected time and time again. It eats away at your self esteem. Because YOU are being rejected...not your approach. YOU! No matter how easy it is for a woman to say to a man whose been rejected, "get over it', it still hurts to be rejected. And natural human behavior will seek to insulate itself against that pain.
And that leads me to Guy 1 and Guy 2. I don't condone their approach...but I do understand it. And it makes sense to me why they do it (even though I don't condone it). Let me explain.
One way to protect yourself from the pain of rejection is to desensitize your feelings from feeling pain. It's the same thing a child who suffered abuse does to function. They go numb. They shut down any emotions of love in order to protect their feelings and cope with what's being done to them. Well...some guys do the same thing. They shut down their emotions to protect their feelings from rejection and the feelings that come along with it. Their lack of feeling allows them to say (whass good ma) and do (being licked) anything they want to do...without feeling rejected on the other end of their approach.
Thus, the punishment you gave by not speaking to those guys was never felt (btw...you did punish them...although speaking to them was not an obligation, withholding a socially reciprocal salutation was your way of punishing them for their inappropriate approach...juxtaposed to the way you rewarded guy 3 for his appropriate approach). When you (rightfully so) reject them, their internal emotional-protection kicked in to protect their feelings. So...your rejection of them was not because they're rude and disrespectful. No...no...no. It's because you're a "raggely ass laces out wig wearin mud face b*tch". Their feelings are in tact...you're the one with the problem...all is right in their world.
Again, I don't condone it. But I do understand it. Guy 3 perhaps doesn't have those same emotional protection strategies. But he does have something...just not the same as guys 1 and 2. Once you find out what his are, lets see if he's still winning.LOL
Incidentally, I wrote a followup article for how men can build up their own confidence. I'd love to get your thoughts.http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2014/03/social-impotence-7-confidence-builders-for-his-social-game/