5 RED FLAGS YOU’RE DATING A F*CK BOY

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Last week I got an idea to write about the hierarchy of fuck boys, as if there were some sort of level that made it ok to be a fuck boy. Upon realization that there is never an acceptable amount of fuck boy that would make a man Mr. Right I decided not to bother pointing out the differences between fuck boys because well, at the end of the day, a fuck boy is still a fuck boy. Or, like I like to refer to them Mr. Wrong aka a #CodeRedFlag.

Instead, I’d like to hit you with 5 blazing red flags that the dude who is hollering at you, you are dating, or you had the unfortunate luck of breeding for is a fuck boy!

1) He expects you to go Dutch on a first date.

My dude, one question for you, fuck I look like? You approached me. You asked for my number. You asked for my time. Now I’m supposed to pay for the pleasure of sharing me with you? In what part of the world do they do that? I’m Jamaican, not Dutch. You ask me out then get ready to use your own coins, shillings, pesos, etc. to make that happen. Don’t expect me to subsidize our date so that you can have left over money to date the other 3 women who you just found so interesting you wanted to get to know. Keep it 100. You’re not willing to invest money into getting to know me because you really don’t want to. You wanna see how far I’m gonna (in my best Jay Z voice) to let you go without any real investment in getting to know me. You want the highest ROI (return on investment) with the minimal investment and I ain’t here for your fuck boy shenanigans; go left loser.

2) He’s a rape apologist.

I don’t think I need to go in too deep about this one. He’s the kind of guy that even after 50 women have accused a man of slipping drugs into their drinks and sexually assaulting them there is not enough evidence and he needs to see the rape on video. But even when he sees the video (think R. Kelly tape) he has an excuse for why the sexual assault was justified. Normally something along the lines of, “well, she doesn’t look underage” or “these little girls nowadays be fast.” Please, for all that is good in the world, ban these type of fuck boys from society ESPECIALLY if you have any little girls in your family.



3) He hits women.

Women beaters are supreme examples of fuck boys. They will choke, smack, punch a woman because she needs to be put in check. But let another man have beef with them, they are copping a plea. You see, it isn’t that a woman beater is somehow more or less violent than the average man or woman, it’s that they derive a certain faux sense of power by demeaning and hurting someone who they know cannot properly defend themselves. They will proclaim their love for you one minute, give you a black eye the next, and then apologize profusely following promising to never do it again. But of course they do. A fuck boys promise is a comfort to the biggest of fools. Nothing a fuck boy says should be interpreted as truthful. Any man who even has the notion that women need to be beaten and controlled has issues no amount of love can overcome. No love for these type of fuck boys

4) He complains about having to pay child support.

This is a favorite past time of fuck boys who are irresponsible with their seed. Instead of wrapping it up and ensuring that their sexual conquest (not woman because fuck boys don’t think of women in any way other than a piece of ass) would not procreate, or even stepping up and acknowledging their child and providing to the best of their ability, a fuck boy will deny the woman, deny the child, deny, deny, deny. That is until the courts hit him with a paternity test proving he is in fact the sperm donor and therefore is responsible for providing.

Some fuck boys will be so upset about having to pay child support they will quit their jobs so they no longer have an income to be garnished. Some have even gone to as drastic of measures to harm the mother and/or the child just so they do not have to provide for their progeny; think Ray Caruth. Any man who refuses to take care of his own flesh and blood is nothing more than a fuck boy. Get you some fuck boy repellant, like standards, to keep him at bay.

5) He curses women out for not wanting to engage with him.

You know the type. He shouts, “Eh shawty, let a real n*gga holla at you doe.” In response you do what any sane woman would do; you keep it moving. The next few phrases out of his disrespectful ass, fuck boy mouth will be something like, “Fuck you bitch you ain’t all that any way.” Not only does this fuck boy not know how to appropriately approach and communicate with a woman. He gets so butt hurt off rejection, due to the fuck boy sense of entitlement that you go from the apple of his eye to a bitch that ain’t shit in 30 seconds flat. Extreme fuck boy.

The 5 red flags I’ve mentioned above are just a few characteristics that fuck boys possess. Some may possess only one; some may possess all 5 plus others. What is clear however is that all of these types are fuck boys. Don’t try to redeem a fuck boys character by saying well there’s levels to this shit or at least he’s not as bad as the next. No, regardless of which character set he possesses he’s still a fuck boy. Make your mantra, “We Don’t Love These Fuck Boys”, and send them along their way expeditiously or suffer the consequences of falling for the scum of the earth.
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Written by Dena Reid, Esq., Founder of Code Red Flag and Amazon bestselling author of Flag On The Play. Ms. Reid is also a legally trained Conflict Mediator/Coach who specializes in family and domestic disputes. Ms. Reid writes an advice column, hosts events, facilitates workshops, and speaks nationwide on a variety of topics. For more information email info@coderedflag.com.



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