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10 Ways to Know You’re Dating a Real Woman

In today’s society we see a lot of men and women pitted against each other in the tireless search to find a “real” mate. The terminology real itself is highly debatable as many find it the incorrect word to substitute “suitable,” “excellent,” or “marrying type.” James Michael Sama wrote a great piece helping women identify whether or not they’ve found a Real Man, now it’s our turn to shed a little light on the “not so” elusive Real Woman. 1. A real woman is not just a pretty face She canRead More

Are You Ready For Love?

Recently, I was having a conversation with a professional who specializes in assisting both male and female victims of sexual and domestic violence. During our conversation, I realized something quite unsettling with her language… she was using the words “single” and “alone” interchangeably. Someone can be single but not alone, and someone can be in a relationship but very much alone. We are raised to believe that we MUST find a partner and we MUST do all it takes to make them happy. You’re nobody till somebody loves you. ThisRead More

Dear CRF, Are Black Men Making Themselves Obsolete?

Dear CRF, My mother and I had a conversation yesterday. She says that black men are making themselves obsolete. She says they don’t want to put in the time, effort or money to date a black woman, they don’t know their position as a man in the household and they are running away from raising their children in droves. I happen to agree with my mother. I was married to a black man who pretended to be a man like my father while we were dating. My father is anRead More

10 Ways to Work on Your Marriage Before You’re Married

The best time to work on your marriage is before you’re married. If you are single, here are 10 things you can do now to prepare for strong matrimony. 1) Stop Falling in Love with Potential Having a healthy relationship with your partner means loving them for who stands before you today, not the hope of who they will be tomorrow. Falling in love with potential is a mistake. 2) Love Yourself More I’m not talking about looking in the mirror and saying, “I look good.” Loving yourself is aboutRead More

The EX Factor

A few weeks ago, I had my heart broken for the second time by the same man for the exact same reason. That reason being his return to a relationship that had been on and off in his life for the past few years. A relationship that he tried his hardest to convince me, himself, and others, that he would not be returning to again. A relationship that he tried to move on from One that he tried to move on from by creating a new relationship with me. ClassicRead More